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Sun, Mar. 6th, 2011, 08:21 pm
bells and whistles

For some unimaginable reason, I have a Livejournal and a Facebook and a Twitter and a Tumblr. To say nothing of the ol' MySpaces and Friendster and Photobucket and Youtube and Reverb Nation and God why god why god why.

So many ways to talk to no one.

See, Livejournal is for deeper thoughts, of which I have had none that I care to share lately. Anything somewhat deeper and baby-related goes on the Tumblr baby blog, which I like because it's easier to upload media (like baby pictures) and there's no comments, because if I want opinions on raising my son I will solicit them. Say, on Facebook, where I am learning not to talk about politics. But also I don't want to be tiresome with baby updates, so then to the baby blog. And then the Twitter, which I basically have just to follow a ton of people/businesses I'm interested in and occasionally say something dopey. And post links to my Tumblr.


It all feels very silly, sillier than it certainly ever felt to write everything I was feeling in real time on this blog for the past I-don't-want-to-think-about-how-many years. I guess the point is that I sure do miss having everybody in one room, and I love how the internet has enabled me to see what everybody's up to, because I am everybody's aunt or something.

I am a sad bear, because my paternity leave is over tomorrow and I'm going to miss my son and my wife and my mommy. I will be thinking of them all day. I will print out multiple pictures of my son as soon as I get to work. I hate that this is the start of a long life of me going to work and missing out on everything. Wish I could be a stay-at-home dad. Or, at least, a work but have my son with me dad. Something.

Anyway, as with all other aspects of my life, I have thrown myself in with total abandon and now I'm one of those psychotics that can't bear to be away from their children even for a moment. I knew I would be like this. I feel everything times a billion. I go for it. Sometimes, in going for it, I blow it. That's a part of it, I guess.

So now I'm going back to work and I'm making too big a deal out of it, or am I? I don't even know. Do other dudes who have to go back to work feel like taking to their proverbial livejournal when it's time? Dunno. I don't know shit about other dads. I'll search Eric's LJ later when I can't sleep. Watching with great love and worry over my amazing little dude.

Anyway, I notice that LJ now gives you the option to link entries to your Twitter and Facebook, which I will not do for now because, oh sometimes how I feel like this is all so dumb.

Thu, Mar. 17th, 2011 12:26 pm (UTC)

you know i sort of changed my perspective to "social media is inherently dumb and im gonna not do it so much" after evan came along. i think its a shift in whats "real" or whatever. i mainly use social media to keep in touch with actual people i know or just to troll mercilessly.

Thu, Mar. 17th, 2011 12:27 pm (UTC)

that was me. consider yourself trolled, bitch!

Tue, Mar. 22nd, 2011 03:26 pm (UTC)

I was so trolled five days ago!

Yeah, I've had a definite shift in the way I use all these sites post-Jhonen. I've realized that I should probably shed all but 20 or 30 of my facebook "friends" to actually get the experience I want. But, instead of going through that labor-intensive process I've just created lists and just skip past the regular FB feed, half of whom I can't even really remember how I'm supposed to know them.

I like them as tools of long-distance communication, particularly since we're in that stage where we can't leave the house much. The technology is still so breath-taking to me, but I get so bogged down in how, in actual practice, it's usually just so boring. It's a common complaint, sure, but I still can't get over that we have the ability to take pictures and videos from wherever we are and instantly share them with hundreds of people all over the world via this mind-boggling globally-spanning technology, and 9 times out of 10 that picture or video is just your boring-ass lunch. Wow, you're eating tacos right now? You don't say.

THERE OUGHT TO BE RULES. But, then no one would follow them, so what does it matter? Don't post food. That's my big one. Don't post food unless it's interesting. So many people on my list (usually from San Antonio) just posting all day, "At Taco Cabana. What should I get?"

Sara posted a pic of a lobster roll in Boston today. That makes the cut (nice looking lobster roll, and the point is more that you're on vacation.) I posted bacon cupcakes because I thought that was interesting enough (wouldn't post, say, the brownies I made the next day.) My friend Seth posted a pic of an artichoke cut in half and it was just a gorgeous picture. Just--you and other parents know. I've got basically five seconds to look at the internet before Jhonen starts crying, so entertain me. I feel like my life is so wasted when I check up on social media and it's just clogged with dozens of people going "What should I wear?" or "Cold today." I love the internet because it enables me to learn new things every single day, but time and space is finite, and you just filled it by telling me that it's raining. Thanks.

Thu, Mar. 31st, 2011 07:18 am (UTC)

I'm listening to lil Wayne. Drinking yummy French wine. Yummy.

Sun, Apr. 10th, 2011 08:17 am (UTC)

Very enlightening and beneficial to someone whose been out of the circuit for a long time.